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SSuperDave

SSuperDave

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I presented myself at the courhouse this morning at 9 am, and at 9:08, I was walking out the door. I spent longer discussing handguns with the sheriffs manning the door when I went in that I did with the judge! There were 7 of us there for uncontested divorces, they took us all into a conference room and swore us in as a group, and the judge asked us one by one if we had a copy of our final decree. Only a smoking hot Asian woman and I had them, so he dismissed the rest to go to the law library to deal with it. I had to read a prepared statement that I already had, and he slammed down the gavel and said "granted". I must have looked confused, because he told me I could leave unless I just liked hanging around. I told him I'd seen as much as I could stand, and left. I'll go on my day off next Tuesday to pick up my certifed copies, but its all done and legal right now.
The instructions said to dress in a manner that shows respect to the court, I wore a sport coat and tie, and the Asian woman was very nicely dressed, but the rest looked like bums, including the women, and had to be told to remove ball caps, and one guy even complained to the bailiff about it. And who shows up to a prescheduled hearing with no paperwork, and grumbles when they are told to go get it?
I told the bailiff that I've spent 62 years of my life trying to stay out of courhouses and away from judges, and hope that after today, it'll be another 62 years before I have to go back! At the risk of sounding elitist, this place was filled with the detrius of society. I walked past the open door to a criminal courtroom when I left and it looked like the cantina scene from Star Wars in there!
 
Thanks Kevin, you can believe that I will savor both. I have a $150 bottle of single malt scotch that I'll be getting into tonight with my cigar.
And again, I appreciate your and Lisa's input.
 
SSuperDave said:
She was mid 30's, and I am mindful of not wanting the be the creepy old guy. Otherwise, the circumstances and location alone would not have held me back!
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I can tell you from experience, when I split from my ex (before the divorce was final), I got picked up by a younger girl (6 years my junior) and boy that was a pretty big difference on outlook and maturity, but the sex was killer (literally). I couldn't keep up. :eek:
 
I had a steak and some shrimp cocktail this eveing by way of celebration, and am feeling pretty damn content right now. All of the 30 mile drive to the courthouse, it was grey and spitting rain, but when I left, about a mile up the road, the sun came out and by the time I got home, there was not a cloud in the sky! I'm going to take that as a sign!
 
So what is your next adventure? You can get a job at any car dealership. Are you going to live in a van down by the river? Build a 10 car garage with a studio apartment? Buy a boat? Us married guys want to know.
 
Well, I am free, but my ambitions are constricted by my finances, or lack thereof. I have a very nice rental house in a great part of town, my cars and personal items, a good job and some good friends. In my mind, I am richer than most. At 62, I'm not going to be going on a spending spree of any kind, but plan on finishing my '70 Elky and going to as many car shows as I can find. My needs are simple, cigars, beer and decent scotch. She'll be off my insurance as of March 1, and that alone puts $600/mo back into my budget. My 22 year old son lives with me, but has a good job and pays his own way, and at some point will want to go out on his own. I'll evaluate my living arrangements at that time, but am leaning towards a small shop with minimal living quarters. To my advantage, at this point, other than recurring expenses like rent, gas, water and electric, I have NO monthy bills. No credit cards, car payment, loans etc, and I plan to keep it that way. The last ten years of her being mostly unemployed, but living like we had 2 incomes has been rough. I was working 60-70 hours a week, and counted on her doing her part at home and she was not. With that kind of hours, I could not work all day and shop and keep up with the house as well, I had to rely on her and she was not good with money. My current job is 40-45 hours and despite the iseues that working for Ford presents, I make more money for less work than I have in a long time, and it amazing how much I've saved since I moved away from her in August.
I know everyone says this, but I just can't see ever getting married again. What possible benefit is in it for me? I'd like a steady long term partner, who pulls her own weight and we don't live together, but name one advantge to marriage? After 32 years, I thought I was safe, but there is no guarantee that a 2nd wife would not go off the rails and if we are not married, I can just leave with no repercussions.
I may just win the lottery tonight and all this will go out the window. If it does, I'll update you from the Bahamas where I'll be vacationeing with some 19 year old Vietnamese twins...
 
I've never been married, happily single, no kids, no loans, no credits cards. I own everything I have. Any reference to marriage was shown the front door.
401k is looking good. My dad made me start doing IRA's when I was 18. I've contributed almost every year since.
At my age (57) there would be no way I would get married. In Kansas the woman gets 1/2 after so long of marriage.

I'd rather go buy a house for some dumb bitch I hate and walk away, than get married. :eek:
 
Molly's 70 said:
In Kansas the woman gets 1/2 after so long of marriage.
I'd rather go buy a house for some dumb bitch I hate and walk away, than get married. :eek:
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In Tennessee, they look at what you both have when you get married.
They only count what you accumulate after getting married.
So whatever your farm is worth before marriage is yours. You would have to give up 1/2 of the farm's increase in value at a divorce.
 
Texas is pretty easy, no alimony unless you have been married over 10 years and the wife does not work. Even then, she only gets it for two years. They determine the amount like a tax table, so she can't get more than that unless the man's income increases, then she can petition the court for more. Same for child support, x number of kids, x amount of income and thats it. And it works the other way as well, if the man takes a big loss of income, he can petition for alimony and child support to be reduced, and they will do it too, happened to a friend of mine. His ex bitched to the judge that it was not her fault and he pointed out that if they were still married, that the family would have taken the hit.
I asked for my '68 Caprice and personal items, and gave her the equity from the sale of the house to get her to sign the papers, and felt it was a fair trade. The Elky is not legally mine (yet), so she never gave it a thought.
Those of you who are regular readers will recall that she gave away the $42K from the house in just 7 weeks, lived in her car for 3 days, then went to her mother's in Georgia. She has to April 30th to get her shit together and move out, and I don't see it happening. Her mother si stressing over the extra $600 or so a month that she's spending due to her, and her sister now hates her guts. Neither of my kids want anything to do with her, once she's out on her ear, she'll have no one. Her sister says she has a new internet boyfriend, a 50 year old George Clooney lookalike who is a LTC in the army. He's in Yemen right now on a "secret mission" and will be retiring next month and coming to get her so they can get married and live happily ever after. I have some friends, they are both retired Air Force, him as an LTC and her as a Major, and she called an old student who is with MARSOC, and asked him what we had going on in Yemen, and his answer was that there was nothing. I told her I bet the "secret mission" was to rescue the first internet boyfriend, you remember, the one who was abducted from an oil rig in the Gulf Of Mexico by "sea pirates".

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35+ years ago in Connecticut the courts favored the female no matter what the circumstances were. I lost everything except for the clothes on my back and a Buick Special with a bad transmission, and she's the one who cheated and admitted it in court (no where near as easy as Dave's divorce). I had to pay child support (I was good with that), but they made me pay alimony too even though she was working. Alimony would have been more but I guess the female judge took pity on me. I even had to pay her attorney fees. That's sucked moose wank.
 
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